Counselling at the end of a relationship

FINDING THE SUPPORT YOU NEED

WHEN FACING HEART WRENCHING LOSS

Are you Having Difficulty LETTING GO OF A RELATIONSHIP?
Do you DOUBT that you have made the RIGHT DECISION
Does your FEAR OF BEING ALONE prevent you from leaving an unsatisfying or abusive relationship?
Do you want someplace to talk about your feelings and not feel like a burden?

Separating from someone you love and have built a life with is very difficult.

You may be feeling rejected and desperate to fix what went wrong, unable to sleep, feeling anxious and depressed, feeling that there is something wrong with you.

Perhaps you are dealing with guilt as the one who made the decision to end a relationship. You may be carrying the responsibility for disrupting the lives of all those involved and find it unbearable to see people you care about in distress. You may find yourself acting with anger and resentment because you want them to not feel upset with you. Or their grief may make it hard to be honest and direct about your feelings.

Feeling ambivalent at this time and going through different emotions is very common. Deciding to end a relationship naturally brings up internal conflicts and self examination. It can be similar to an alcoholic deciding to stop drinking - it doesn't mean they are not going to want to drink! At times it seems so much easier to go back to how things were even when it is clear that the relationship was not working. Being alone can feel empty and you may fear that you will never be in a relationship again.

Sometimes when a relationship has been short lived you can be left with strong emotions that are hard to understand. You may feel short changed and that the relationship ended before it even began.

Counselling and Psychotherapy helps you to work through these internal conflicts so you can move on with greater understanding and compassion for yourself.

The ending of a relationship no matter how painful it is can be an opportunity to examine underlying patterns and deal with unfinished business from the past.

Do you find yourself in similar dynamics and experiences in relationships?

Do you feel overwhelmed by grief and loss that seems to be bigger than the loss of this relationship?

Do you keep selecting partners with similar traits who bring up similar experiences from relationship to relationship?

Perhaps you have been able to identify how your partners seem to recreate experiences from your family but have not found a way to change it?

Psychotherapy can provide the answers

My 25 years of experience working with people offers you a COMPASSIONATE and KNOWLEDGEABLE base to explore your questions and experiences.

Ending a relationship takes time to recover from and you need the kind of support that is going to help you to make sense of what has happened, resolve any unfinished business, be present with you as you experience strong emotions, and provide encouragement to take risks that will change the way you are in relationships.

A few years back, a good friend of mine mentioned Delyse and her counselling service to me during a difficult spell in my life. My friend noticed back then I was struggling after having gone through another failed relationship. At that time I ignored the advice, and, I believe, subconsciously, refused to acknowledge this negative pattern I was in. A couple of years went by, and I found myself in a terrible downward spiral, whereby I was involved in dead-end relationships, looking for love in all the wrong places, as they say. At the same time, I lost my father to cancer and yet another romantic relationship ended with me feeling the most angry, sad, confused, jealous feelings I have ever felt. My world was glassed in negativity and I really felt like I was going to crack. I recalled my friend's advice about Delyse, and so I looked her up on the Internet and called her right away. My experience with Delyse has been a calming, slow progression, which at first I felt impatient, because I was looking for a quick answer, a quick fix. With her ability to listen intently and the wisdom she imparted enabled me to recognize the triggers which kept me bound in my negative cycle. Delyse is funny, a great listener, and provides gentle reminders during those times the blinders become engaged. At times, I do face the same negative feelings but with Delyse's guidance, I have the ability now to recognize them in advance, sit with it, take things at face value now, and am much more calmer and patient and loving towards myself than I've ever felt. I highly recommend her to anyone seeking help and guidance, as she was a gift to me." D.C. Vancouver, BC.

Counselling with Delyse offers experience, and compassion to help you pick up the pieces when a relationship ends.

I have experience with:

Separation and loss. I have worked with hundreds of people dealing with separation and loss of many kinds. Relationships ending is one of the most common reasons people come to see me for counselling.

Understanding why a relationship ends. This is often the biggest question people have at the end of a relationship. It is important that you come to your own understanding to be able to move on.

Mediation. If you require counselling to sort out separation agreements involving children or assets it can be useful to come for mediation before involving lawyers. Coming to counselling as a couple can also be useful to help understand why it has come to an end.

Different types of relationships. I have worked with people separating from marriage, same sex relationships, abusive relationships, short encounters, obsessions and infidelity.

CALL NOW to make an appointment 604 329 6006. Or email for more information.

Office address 608 402 W. Pender St, Vancouver (Downtown Vancouver) Serving Vancouver, North/West Vancouver, Burnaby, Westminister

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